Resolutions are a very big deal. The end of the year is a natural time to reflect and it is normal for people to resolve to make big changes. Now, I previously posted about how to achieve success by sticking to the four Rs of resolutions—results, reasons, resources, responsibility. Those will definitely help you succeed.
But resolutions aren’t for everyone. In fact, resolutions can leave many people frustrated, drained, and, let’s face it, depressed. There is another, gentler, but incredibly effective way to achieve what you want. I call it the anti-resolution: the create space alternative.
This fantastic idea came from my friend Katherine Collins, founder of Honeybee Capital. At the end of every year, Katherine reflects on the highlights and lowlights of the past year. She goes through her calendar, week-by-week and day-by-day, and revisits her year. What were the magical moments? What was wonderful and incredible? What was impactful? Special?
She is reminded of (and sometimes surprised by) the events that brought the greatest joy and fulfillment, and made the greatest memories. Sometimes it is work-related or professional, sometimes it is family time or a vacation, sometimes it’s a social engagement.
Here’s the amazing part. She then looks at the calendar ahead and puts in those great events for the coming year. She actually schedules them (as much as she can). She blocks out the time and creates the space to make sure these happen again. She creates the space for her own joy. So simple, and so smart.
And you can do it too:
- Look back at your year.
- What brought you joy?
- What was most memorable?
- What had the greatest impact?
- What are you most proud of?
- What was great?
- What do you want to do again?
Now, start with the first quarter of the New Year. Look at January, February, and March. What can you schedule? What can you put on the calendar? What can you create space for to bring you joy? Book it!
This is such a terrific strategy. Look ahead and create space for the joy. Put it on the calendar!